Its funny how men will quickly distance themselves from a woman with just the thought of her not being all that he imagined her to be. Its weird to me how a woman can be pushed away so easily and most feelings thrown out once that guy believes she cheated or even capable of cheating. I know that I've been guilty of doing such things. I always figured it was just me. But talking with more and more guys the older I become, men that have more experience in relationships. They confirm that I am not alone in my thinking and my actions.I once left a girl on Valentine's day because she did something totally out of the ordinary (sleeping away from home and not being able to reach her). I left one girl in the middle of the night while she was sleep because I felt like she was bs'ing me. I completely cut off communication with a cool girl because of how wild I found out she was in her past and figured she could still have some of that in her. I mean some people may say its wrong and I'm too judgemental, but!!! But people have to also remember that your past will catch up with you some day. If you were loose, a cheater, a home wrecker, or just a plain liar then how can you be upset when that great guy comes along with values, honest, believes in family and he doesn't want to ignore your track record and trust that you won't repeat it? Hell even jobs, companies extending credit, and landlords check your history. But in a relatonship your history should not be taken into account? Ok!
What people do says a lot about who they are. Of course we all make mistakes. Of course most of us wish we could take things back. And of course we shouldn't pay for past mistakes forever. But we do. Sometimes shit from our past jumps up and bite us in the ass. I have made mistakes. Some I wish that I could take back. But it is what it is. It may show up at some point and it may not. But if it does then I will deal with it at that moment and not blame the other person for questioning my sketchy past. That is if I had something to be really ashamed of. And I don't. I don't understand why I or men in general react the way that i/we do. Maybe its partially our upbringing... who knows. All I know is that a lot of these wild people out here men and women will have a lot of skeletons squeezed into their closets. And they will have a hell of a time keeping it secret forever.
Amazing, Mike an admission of imperfection on your part. Glad to read it. I'm one of those you dissed by the way, I later found out you had lied to me about something but whatever, its all in the past. The truth is we are all a work in progress, constantly striving to improve who we are so that we can be better persons, better mates, better parents. Sometimes though in cutting people out of your life so abruptly you miss the lesson that God is trying to teach you. Remember we come into contact with people for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
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May God Bless you with all that you need,
A Former Friend
A Former Friend,
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right. We are all a work in progress. Although I do believe that perfection can be attained, it rarely if ever is here on Earth. Most of us do miss those lessons that God place before us. Luckily for me he put enough "reasons" before me so that I would be prepared for my "lifetime" he just blessed me with.
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